tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154278353423103464.post3514579070817192988..comments2023-05-15T05:22:25.218-04:00Comments on Remembering Josh: Writing to Heal - August 30, 2009Emilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11873051992804750243noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154278353423103464.post-6794437302568105842009-09-02T21:15:01.815-04:002009-09-02T21:15:01.815-04:00C,
I am glad that you found Josh's blog and th...C,<br />I am glad that you found Josh's blog and that what is written has reinforced your understanding that suicide is never the answer. While it may not be as trite as this common saying, "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem", because the problem may truly be lifelong and so deep it is hard to understand or articulate, suicide does not make things better. <br /><br />I am glad you are here too and that you want to live and not miss out on your girl's lives. <br /><br />I have to believe that if Josh knew the heartache and pain that his death has caused our family and his friends, he would not have done it. At least I hope so. <br /><br />Your words have encouraged me to continue sharing - even when it is hard and painful to do so. Thanks so much for your open and honest comment.Josh's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02557596295055675267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154278353423103464.post-19420028561061418452009-09-01T13:47:17.651-04:002009-09-01T13:47:17.651-04:00Dear Sue,
As I continue to read your blogs - and r...Dear Sue,<br />As I continue to read your blogs - and reread each one of them - I am struck by several things. The first is how uncomfortable grief is and how completely unfamiliar I am with it. I've had the thought that wanting other people to be "over it" or to "move on" is (perhaps) more about our own comfortability then their health, or their need to give themselves to this process. I haven't had that thought for you ~ but imagine I have had it for others, and that saddens me. I have also grown to love a young man (through your words, others' words and all the photos) that I never even knew. At first, I cried for you and Tim and your other children...now, at times, I cry for Josh. I'm also continuously struck by your courage, and want you to know - as many others have written - that through your courage you "en"courage me. I often feel too lazy to discuss something that is uncomfortable...or to try again with someone who frustrates me...or to read/study/write and ask the questions that I'm personally challenged to ask about myself and my faith at this time in my life. And words from your blog come to my mind...and I push myself a bit more then I might have. <br /><br />I love your metaphor about the life preserver...and imagine that more then one might be needed before the boat seems like it could become a possibilty. Know that my prayers, heart and thoughts are with you as you journey ~ thank you for including us...love, AdrienneAdriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07162378842097630556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154278353423103464.post-15463335303565269152009-09-01T12:09:20.842-04:002009-09-01T12:09:20.842-04:00Dear Mrs.Anderson,
I'm a mother of 3 girls and...Dear Mrs.Anderson,<br />I'm a mother of 3 girls and a survivor of child abuse. I have struggled for years with thoughts of suicide. The internal pain, the shame I felt was killing me because the abuse I suffered shattered my childhood. The anxiety of having three precious daughters and the thought that someone could ever hurt them has plagued me because the abuse was at the hands of my father, someone who you were supposed to be able to trust. In the middle of the night, my insomnia brought me to your page. From the deepest part of my heart, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Reading your blog has made me realize at the age of 30, suicide isn't and never will be the answer to my problems.Writing and getting into counseling has helped me. Things are not easy for me, they never will be, but I do know, I want to live and not miss out. I realized taking my life would be the one last thing that I could let my father rob me of, and even though it has taken me so long to learn that, I'm glad I'm here. Thank you for your words that you write on this blog, I wish you didn't have to, but your family and the story of your son, have opened my eyes.<br />In my thoughts and prayers,<br />C.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com