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Monday, April 18, 2016

April 18, 2016: 7 Years and 1 Month Later

The last post I wrote was six months ago (October 18, 2015) and before that, three months (July 18, 2015). To not write anything over the holidays, his birthday (Jan. 16) or his death anniversary (March 18) would've been unthinkable two years ago.  Similarly, I'd never thought that weekly visits to the park (his gravesite) would cease but they have.

It has been a full seven years since Josh left us and while he remains frozen in time as a 17-year old teenage boy, I continue on the conveyer belt of life which has a way of filling the gaping hole of loss, and softening the sharp, ragged edges which once cut incessantly.

And while his absence is always with me, it is more like a shadow rather than an "in-your-face" punch.

So in my experience, the adage is true: "Time heals."

I am careful to say "in my experience" because I can only speak for myself. Everyone's experience is uniquely theirs, not subject to critique or judgement.

But sadness hovers, especially when twice today, I've been asked if my contact information could be given to newly grieving moms. "Yes, of course," I say, "along with the URL of this blog."

And my heart breaks for them.

1 comment:

Dianne said...

I have been reading your blog for years now and only tonight did it register that your son's death anniversary is 2 days after my son's and my son was also 17. It is 9 years this year and I can't say time heals, but do understand what you mean by it is not a punch in the face feeling. I can go for weeks without crying and then sob uncontrollably for hours some days and then on birthdays or anniversaries no tears come and others find it "strange"
No matter how your child died, the guilt, the what if's and if only's are still there.
Sending you love and light